Serious and unserious people.
I feel that in this world, the serious people have a hard time and the unserious people enjoy their lives.
Serious people work very hard at their jobs, but because of their seriousness, they may have problems alone, may not be able to say no to requests, or may easily wear out their nerves because of their strong sense of responsibility.
I think that serious people will often find it difficult to live in this society.
I totally understand! I often put too much pressure on myself too…
I have a friend who is a very serious girl, but she always looks so tired that it worries me……
Of course there is a very good side to seriousness, and being serious should be praised.
However, I’m also a serious person, and I’ve seen many serious people in my life, and now I think it’s okay to be unserious.
I now think that there is no need to be too serious and try too hard at everything, and that it would be better to live life with a moderate amount of relaxation.
More to the point, I think it is better to aim for a state between seriousness and insincerity, rather than just being unserious.
If this article can be a starting point to make your life a little less difficult, I’ll be very happy 🙂
In this way, I felt ridiculous for being so serious
When I look at myself in the past and the serious people around me, I feel that serious people have a very hard time living their lives.
They are serious, so even if they are mentally cornered, they will continue to work diligently.
And in some cases, they end up breaking their heart.
At one point, I looked at myself and the people around me and suddenly started to get pissed off at the situation of serious people having a hard time.
It’s great to work hard and diligently on things, but on the other hand, I couldn’t agree with the fact that serious people become mentally exhausted.
At one point, I finally felt like a fool for taking things seriously.
“Why am I having a hard time mentally when I’m working so hard? On the other hand, unserious people are not working as hard as I am, but they seem to be enjoying life more than I am. They seem to be enjoying life. Isn’t it the other way around? Fuck you! Fuck you!!!!!!“
So I lost my patience with this ridiculous structure of the world, and I stopped trying to do things seriously.
My anger completely reached its peak at the rotten structure of this world where the more serious people lose.
If people feel that what they are doing is not being rewarded, they will lose motivation…
Well, I guess it can’t be helped……
But when I stopped trying so hard to do things seriously, my life eventually changed for the better.
I can live my life more easily than before because I can now think as follows. “I don’t have to work so hard at this, so I don’t mind if I do it a little lazily” and “It’s okay if I fail. I don’t care if I fail.”
I became able to make a clear distinction between what I needed to do well and what I didn’t need to do well, and I gradually stopped pushing myself too hard.
I feel that my mental health is clearly better than it was when I was serious, as a result of my increasing lack of seriousness.
However, even though I’ve lost my seriousness, I still take my assigned tasks somewhat seriously.
Now, I’m not trying to cut corners and do everything haphazardly, and I’m not trying to do everything perfectly.
I think I’m somewhere in between serious and unserious right now.
The problem is that they’re too serious
I am now taking the stance that when I try to do things seriously, I try to do them seriously, as long as I don’t get too stressed out.
Why do serious people have a hard time? I think it is because they are too serious.
I simply don’t see a problem with people who are serious; the problem is that there are overly serious types of people.
I’m still a serious person, but I don’t push myself too hard anymore.
I now think that “if I can’t do it, I have no choice”, and “if I fail, I have no choice”, and I am not trying to keep trying super hard.
As a result, I don’t feel as much stress as I used to.
So, if you are having a hard time because of your seriousness, I think you should loosen up your overly serious nature to a moderately serious nature.
If you take a stance that you will do your best to do what you are given, but take breaks in moderation, and say no to any more requests that are impossible, you will not be overly stressed.
In the first place, it might be a good idea to ask yourself if the work in front of you is really something you should risk your life to do.
I’m sure there are many cases where the job in front of you is not that important in your life.
If that’s the case, there’s no need to feel too much pressure.
This is a world where people being good at dealing with things have advantages
I believe that in order to live better in this world, we need to deal with things better.
For example, if you are surfing the Internet during work but only pretend to be working hard when your boss is around, your reputation will not be diminished, no matter how much you usually skip work and surf the Internet.
In this way, it is also a fact that people who are able to handle things well even if they are not serious can lead a better life. If this is the case, I think that it is not necessary to keep working hard and be serious, but it is better to learn to cut corners and handle things well.
I often watch scenes from American movies where an employee is playing a game in his office, and when his boss comes in, he just switches the screen and acts like he’s working lol
I don’t think you need to keep working hard and diligently all the time.
No car can run forever.
Any sturdy car needs regular maintenance.
It’s exactly the same for us, and I think it’s okay to relax a little, take a break, and live a little more casually.
What happens when you become unserious?
Nothing bad will happen to you if you become a little unserious.
As long as we have a welfare system, we will not starve to death.
Even if you get fired from a company, there are plenty of other companies out there.
Even if your friends don’t like you, there are plenty of other people who can be your friends.
Being serious is not absolute justice in this world, and being a little unserious does not make everyone around you your enemy.
If anything, your mind will be more stable, and you may be able to perform even better than when you were serious.
That’s exactly what I did.
I’m not suggesting that you become a juvenile delinquent.
In my opinion, it’s okay to live a little more relaxed than you do now.
We need to find ways to make our lives better
You don’t have to be perfect
I don’t think we need to be perfect.
In the first place, there is no such thing as a perfect person in this world, and I think it is very hard to try to be perfect.
I think it’s natural for humans to be imperfect.
I think it is enough if someone else fills in the parts that I lack.
There is no need to show perfection to the people around you, and there is nothing wrong with being unserious.
It’s not like you’re going to die if you become unserious.
If anything, it made my life easier.
Just as idols with flaws are more likely to be supported by their fans, and I think it’s okay for everyone to have a few flaws.
Of course, I’m not denying all seriousness, but I think it’s great to be serious, and I think it’s okay to be a little unserious in order to make the most of that great seriousness.
I think it’s important to have a balance of seriousness and unseriousness.
It is often said, “If you work hard, something good will happen to you,” but is that really true?
It is also a reality that some people become mentally ill as a result of trying too hard to do things seriously.
Is being serious really absolute justice or the right answer?
I don’t think so.
Rather, I feel that the unserious people have left more of a mark on history than the serious people.
Well, there is definitely a bit of an image of crazy people becoming more successful.
In my mind, Steve Jobs is a prime example of this
So, my suggestion was, “If you’re too serious and you’re having a hard time, why don’t you relax a little and be a little unserious than you are now?
If this article helps alleviate some of your living pains, then I’m happy!
Thank you for taking the time to read this long! 🙂 🙂