Today is June 15th.
I became 29 years old today.
I want to spend the last year of my twenties meaningfully.
And the year when I’ve never had a girlfriend in my life also entered the 29th year.
Yes, I’ve never had a girlfriend so far.
I have lived without any fate with women in my life so far.
I approached the woman I was interested in, but it didn’t work out, and even if I told them that I liked you, they didn’t give me a good reply. After all, I couldn’t do anything at all, and now I’ve lost confidence in myself.
Even though I’m shy and passive, I’ve been failing for a long time, I don’t feel like acting anymore, and honestly, I can’t help now.
I was thinking you were not really interested in a woman, but that was not the case …
I was really lonely for a while and it was pretty hard mentally.
I have no experience of romance like this, but I also feel an inferiority complex.
Even if I look around, it is natural that people have a romantic experience, and if I say that I don’t have a romantic experience, people will get a puzzled face.
I feel the air as if I am humanly strange.
In fact, when I was a student, my friends made me foolish, and aunts who worked part-time also laughed at me.
So when people notice that I haven’t had a girlfriend so far, I feel like I’m being denied my personality.
I’m sad, embarrassed, and think that “Am I a loser that everyone can’t do normally?”.
I’m such a person, but lately I think the tendency that “a person who has never had a girlfriend in life is creepy” is creepy!
I think it’s completely ridiculous.
Now, let’s take a closer look at what that means.
- “People who have girlfriends are great” is just an imposition of values
- People who say “a person who has the number of people who have never had a girlfriend in life is increasing steadily never had a girlfriend in life is creepy” have a narrow field of vision
- The number of people who have never had a girlfriend in life is increasing steadily
- Will the divorce rate increase if the number of people who sleep together increases?
- Is it actually a surprisingly good impression for women?
“People who have girlfriends are great” is just an imposition of values
Is it great to have a girlfriend in the first place?
Is the person without a girlfriend inferior?
What is the standard of superiority or inferiority?
Is having a girlfriend the absolute correct answer?
No, “people who have girlfriends are great” is not the absolute correct answer, and there is also not a clear standard of superiority or inferiority.
“A person who have a girlfriend is great” is not an absolute standard such as “killing a person is not allowed” or “stealing someone else’s thing is not allowed”.
For example, about half of recent college students have no girlfriend in their life so far, and like this, the value changes depending on the era, so that is not a universal standard.
In other words, “a person who has a girlfriend is great” is a matter of taste, and “a person who has a girlfriend is great”, “a person who has never had a girlfriend in life is creepy”. those opinions are just an imposition of values.
A long time ago, my mother often said, “Don’t just read the book, play outside once in a while!”, But it was not your concern…
I honestly thought she was noisy when my mother who had the value that “moving the body is important” imposed her value on me. haha
If you don’t bother anyone, you can do whatever you want.
The imposition of values is annoying, and I think “leave it alone!“.
“A person who has a girlfriend is great” is just an imposition of values, so there is no need to deal with it originally.
As an important premise, first of all, there is essentially no need to be imposed incomprehensible values.
People who say “a person who has the number of people who have never had a girlfriend in life is increasing steadily never had a girlfriend in life is creepy” have a narrow field of vision
People who think that “a person who has never had a girlfriend in life is creepy” have a very narrow field of vision, so I think it is better to gain more other social experience as well as romance.
People have both strengths and weaknesses, and not everyone is good at romance.
I’m a pretty shy type, and I’m passive and introverted.
However, because I am shy and introverted, I have various abilities that sociable people don’t have: can make music, can draw pictures, can write sentences, have sharp intuition, and have high imagination and empathy.
In other words, a person who denies that person’s personality by saying, “a person who has never had a girlfriend in life is creepy” sees only one side of the person.
Whether or not that person has a girlfriend is just one of the elements that make up that person.
So, to be honest, I can only say that a person who decides the superiority or inferiority of a person based on whether or not he has a girlfriend has a narrow view.
The attitude of looking only at what the person cannot do and not trying to think about other good points of the person can only be said to have a narrow field of vision.
The number of people who have never had a girlfriend in life is increasing steadily
It seems that the number of people who have never had a girlfriend in life is increasing steadily year by year.
In Japan, it seems that more than 30% of men in their late twenties who have never had a girlfriend in life.
In this way, I think it’s becoming more common for people to have never had a girlfriend.
That also should be expected, unlike in the past, there are smartphones and various fun services, so even if you are alone, you will feel less lonely and bored than in the past.
Therefore, I think it’s a world where people can enjoy even if they don’t have a girlfriend, so it’s no wonder that there are many people who only have a girlfriend for marriage.
Also, there are various discussions about the declining birthrate, but since it is a policy issue that the country should consider, so I think it is enough for us to enjoy our lives as we wish.
We can’t think of a declining birthrate all the time.
Play games when you want to play games, immerse yourself in work when you want to immerse yourself in work, watch movies when you want to watch movies, and enjoy your life.
If there’s anything else you want to do, don’t force yourself to meet the standards of the world, and I think it’s a good style to go your own way!
Will the divorce rate increase if the number of people who sleep together increases?
In the first place, no matter how many people you go out with, you can only marry one person, and you cannot build a family with more than one person.
So whether you’re dating 100 people or one, if you’re finally going to marry one, I don’t think there’s a big difference.
And there is a research result that the divorce rate increases as the number of people who slept together increases, and it is true that people who have a lot of women who slept together tend to be interested in various women even if they get married, so I wonder if their marriage is more likely to collapse due to women’s play compared to a people who have few experiences that slept with a woman.
So, in the long run, a person who has never had a girlfriend in life may be able to have a happier marriage in the future than a player.
It feels like I’m telling myself when I write it like this. haha.
Is it actually a surprisingly good impression for women?
In the first place, I think that saying “a person who has a girlfriend is great” or “a person who has never had a girlfriend in life is creepy” is generally a man.
Because man generally very likes to one-up someone.
But what do the women think about that?
I have looked at various opinions of women, but it seems that women unexpectedly have a good impression of a person who has never had a girlfriend in life.
Of course, there were some women who didn’t like people who have never had a girlfriend in life, but many said that they are a good impression, such as “I don’t care” or “He seems to be devoted.”
There are quite a lot of women who say, “People who are sincere and devoted are better than playboys”♪
So, I think that having no girlfriend in life may be an advantage in some cases.
It may not be necessary to be so pessimistic.
As mentioned above, I have written a lot about what I who the year without a girlfriend has entered the 29th year think.
Since I’m alone all the time, I sometimes feel lonely.
Sometimes I feel sad because I want to feel the warmth of the person by matching my skin with my lover.
However, I don’t think happiness is easy to obtain, and if the process of obtaining happiness is difficult, I think that happiness will be very big, so I try not to be pessimistic so much, and now I want to spend this year.
Well, I’d like to meet a good person in the next 5 or 6 years, get married, and build a mediocre family, but if it’s impossible, I’ll do my best in the afterlife. haha.
Are you not impatient?
Nowadays I can laugh at myself to a certain extent, but honestly, it was really hard before.
And now I think there is no meaning to rush. It can’t be helped.
Because this kind of thing requires fate.
Well, making a lover or getting married isn’t everything in life, so I want you to find a good person slowly!
So, let’s do our best together if you are in the same situation as me.
Good luck to all of “a person who has never had a girlfriend in the life”.